If you Love Someone, Ask Them For Nothing

If you love someone, ask them for nothing. Don't hold them back from their destiny. Don't keep them from going off in search of their own answers. Don't ask them for commitment. You will know commitment is real when it is something given willingly, and not as something obligatory. Don't ask them for promises. If you are patient, if you have faith, you will know in your heart when the right time for promises has come.

And when that time arrives, then you will see that you have both lost nothing by setting each other free, and have instead gained a richer, fuller life, a wealth of experiences, and a stronger certainty of your desires.

But should they not return to you, then life hasn't cheated you because no promises were broken. Your bitterness will not last long, and you will feel thankful and blessed that at the very least, this beautiful soul has colored your life, that knowing them has already made life infinitely more meaningful.

By setting a person free, you run a risk of them not returning. But always remember that you found them beautiful precisely because they were free. People are like sunlight. You can feel their warmth, and their glow, but you can't hold them in your hand and keep them with you forever. People CHOOSE to stay. But a choice is made more meaningful when it is made despite so many other options. Love has no restrictions and it is through mistakes that sometimes we see the right answer. Because if you love someone, you ask them for nothing and they will come back to you.

I got this for Anniqua! Hehehe Annick actually – thanks dear for sharing this with me :) I will forever cherish our bonding session at KK! :D

Badabing Badaboom!

Uninspired. Lower Part of the Wheel. Demotivated.

Those were the three words that would best describe this weird phase, and then there’s a spark that just shows up in its most unique and unexpected form.

I woke up this morning thinking “SSDD” – same sh*t different day.

So this morning in my usual spot at Figaro, having my first kape and yosi for the day, someone actually introduced himself to me. I’ve been noticing him actually, I always see him around the Makati Area, other coffee shops, crossing the streets etc. He looks like a typical Pinoy but for some weird reason he stands out. He’s hard to miss.

He’s actually in the same industry as I am now. Events, production, pr…all those shenanigans. He’s been in the industry for almost ten years and still makin’ it. I actually enjoyed listening to his adventures and his misadventures. For the first time, I found myself really quiet just listening to his very very colorful life (imagine he worked with Jude Law and Ewan McGregor?!?!)

In other words, I found my spark again. J He even told me about the big booboos he encountoured – loosing 400 thousand pesos but gaining a 10 million project in 3 years.

The truth is, I see myself in this industry for a very long time. There’s no other place or job I can imagine myself with.

A client shared to me that he was meant to see the world. The truth is, with his job, he has seen more than half of the world. So then he asked me “Char, so what do you think are you meant to do?” with a smile, it just came out of my lips effortlessly I said “I’m meant to meet people. All kinds.” (Traveling comes with that I hope?)

For someone as young as 24, I am holding on to that vision. :) For once in my life I am positively sure about something.

So let's see. I'm waiting for my 'badabing badaboom' moment.

Sige nga, in other words. OO NA. He’s CUTE. Even if he’s 10 years older!