Quote for the Day

We’re conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware - beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.
-Kent Nerburn

Thanks Zaney for sharing the story and thanks for the company tonight :) Forever cherished.

There is a way to be good again

There are times when you are emotional - you tend to do the craziest things. Like you’re just extremely happy or in the most terrible pain – you don’t realize that you’ve already neglected your duties, stepped on several people who matter the most or gone against your principles.

You do a toast for your own satisfaction but once your glass touches another – because of the force or your clumsiness – the expensive wine glass breaks.

I can laugh it off and act as if nothing happened OR I can acknowledge the damage, pick the piece up together and clean up the spilled drink.

No matter how embarrassing, painful or difficult your situation is – there is way to be good again. One of the best lines I read from the book, “The Kite Runner” by Khaled Hosseini .

As much as possible – we all want to bury the past but sometimes it has a way to claw itself out but in the end – there will always be redemption.

Funny on my way home, the song “Things will Go my Way” by The Calling played in iPod randomly:

For all the lives
I've tasted
Just looking for the truth
For all the dreams I'm chasing
What am I to do
With everything against me
The answers are all wrong
Open now, I'll find out
It was working all along

The past couple of weeks have been a rollercoaster ride. I know I’ve made a lot of mistakes, I know I’ve misjudged and disappointed a lot of people – I am not perfect but there is always a WAY to be good again – simply because I BELIEVE. I still have my faith to hold on to. It will happen – I’ll be able to clean up my mess and I know it’s not going to be easy to get there but I’ll eventually be the best person I can be. I just have to keep the fire burning. Have that desire to change, have the heart to forgive and the understanding to accept things the way they are.

If you Love Someone, Ask Them For Nothing

If you love someone, ask them for nothing. Don't hold them back from their destiny. Don't keep them from going off in search of their own answers. Don't ask them for commitment. You will know commitment is real when it is something given willingly, and not as something obligatory. Don't ask them for promises. If you are patient, if you have faith, you will know in your heart when the right time for promises has come.

And when that time arrives, then you will see that you have both lost nothing by setting each other free, and have instead gained a richer, fuller life, a wealth of experiences, and a stronger certainty of your desires.

But should they not return to you, then life hasn't cheated you because no promises were broken. Your bitterness will not last long, and you will feel thankful and blessed that at the very least, this beautiful soul has colored your life, that knowing them has already made life infinitely more meaningful.

By setting a person free, you run a risk of them not returning. But always remember that you found them beautiful precisely because they were free. People are like sunlight. You can feel their warmth, and their glow, but you can't hold them in your hand and keep them with you forever. People CHOOSE to stay. But a choice is made more meaningful when it is made despite so many other options. Love has no restrictions and it is through mistakes that sometimes we see the right answer. Because if you love someone, you ask them for nothing and they will come back to you.

I got this for Anniqua! Hehehe Annick actually – thanks dear for sharing this with me :) I will forever cherish our bonding session at KK! :D

Badabing Badaboom!

Uninspired. Lower Part of the Wheel. Demotivated.

Those were the three words that would best describe this weird phase, and then there’s a spark that just shows up in its most unique and unexpected form.

I woke up this morning thinking “SSDD” – same sh*t different day.

So this morning in my usual spot at Figaro, having my first kape and yosi for the day, someone actually introduced himself to me. I’ve been noticing him actually, I always see him around the Makati Area, other coffee shops, crossing the streets etc. He looks like a typical Pinoy but for some weird reason he stands out. He’s hard to miss.

He’s actually in the same industry as I am now. Events, production, pr…all those shenanigans. He’s been in the industry for almost ten years and still makin’ it. I actually enjoyed listening to his adventures and his misadventures. For the first time, I found myself really quiet just listening to his very very colorful life (imagine he worked with Jude Law and Ewan McGregor?!?!)

In other words, I found my spark again. J He even told me about the big booboos he encountoured – loosing 400 thousand pesos but gaining a 10 million project in 3 years.

The truth is, I see myself in this industry for a very long time. There’s no other place or job I can imagine myself with.

A client shared to me that he was meant to see the world. The truth is, with his job, he has seen more than half of the world. So then he asked me “Char, so what do you think are you meant to do?” with a smile, it just came out of my lips effortlessly I said “I’m meant to meet people. All kinds.” (Traveling comes with that I hope?)

For someone as young as 24, I am holding on to that vision. :) For once in my life I am positively sure about something.

So let's see. I'm waiting for my 'badabing badaboom' moment.

Sige nga, in other words. OO NA. He’s CUTE. Even if he’s 10 years older!

I'd want to have coffee with Neil Gaiman

I came across this quote. BAAM. I’d want to sit down and have kape and yosi with this guy.

"Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.”
- Neil Gaiman

Reposting: Closing Cycles

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end.

If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.

Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished. Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden?

You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened. You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that.

But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister, everyone will be finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

None of us can be in the present and the past at the same time, not even when we try to understand the things that happen to us. What has passed will not return: we cannot for ever be children, late adolescents, sons that feel guilt or rancor towards our parents, lovers who day and night relive an affair with someone who has gone away and has not the least intention of coming back.

Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away. That is why it is so important (however painful it maybe!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home. Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.
Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them. Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood. Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the ideal moment.

Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person. Nothing is irreplaceable. A habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life. Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust. Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.

I'm going to change.

So why did I do it? I could offer a million answers, all false. The truth is that I'm a bad person, but that's going to change, I'm going to change. This is the last of this sort of thing. I'm cleaning up and I'm moving on, going straight and choosing life. I'm looking forward to it already. I'm going to be just like you: the job, the family, the fucking big television, the washing machine, the car, the compact disc and electrical tin opener, good health, low cholesterol, dental insurance, mortgage, starter home, leisurewear, luggage, three-piece suite, DIY, game shows, junk food, children, walks in the park, nine to five, good at golf, washing the car, choice of sweaters, family Christmas, indexed pension, tax exemption, clearing the gutters, getting by, looking ahead, to the day you die. - Renton from Trainspotting